After all my whining...

After years of wanting a partner, I find one. He's kind, good to me, loves me, & you'd think things couldn't be better. WRONG. My family doesn't approve of him because his past is less than attractive. We all have setbacks. We all mess up. For now, I'm not giving up on him. And I really don't think he'll give me a reason to walk away. I'm a reasonable person, I will if I have to, but it feels right to stay right now. He makes me happy. I enjoy him. Things don't have to be deep. We aren't supporting each other, we're just being supportive emotionally. I can't spend my entire life being miserable and trying to please everyone else. I give up on that.

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[shelly]

It's so stupid that your family isn't willing to give him a chance. I guess all you can do is persevere. I just really don't understand -- it isn't like he's mean to you and it isn't like he's actually dangerous in some way. If you're happy then it's not even their business. It's just so weird.

[Mariah]

My mom & sis have this idea set in stone in their minds that all drug addicts are scary and dangerous, but I know most of them are sad & fragile. Which is really the case with Zack. He's not a user or manipulative like some of my past ventures. They don't think he's good enough for me b/c he's had more setbacks & hasn't gotten his life together yet. Well, neither have I, is the way I look at it. I am in no position to point fingers at anyone. We are both trying and that's all I ask. :)

He's already made a lot of progress personally. He's not smoking pot (that was the one drug he was still doing) & he's slacked off a lot on the cigarettes, but I told him it's good he wants to quit for his overall health, obviously, but if he smokes some for his mental stability for now, it's a crutch, but it's understandable. I am pretty hard on him, actually, but he responds well to it. He needs the stability. He sort of craves it like a child b/c he's never really had it. I am rambling, sorry.